August 8, 2008

Quarter life crisis

I know that this is a forward and I know that it has been circulated like a zillion times, but it makes some level of sense. (And it is damn funny)
It is when you stop going along with the crowd and start realizing that there are many things about yourself that you didn't know and may not like. You start feeling insecure and wonder where you will be in a year or two, but then get scared because you barely know where you are now.

You start realizing that people are selfish and that, maybe, those friends that you thought you were so close to aren't exactly the greatest people you have ever met, and the people you have lost touch with are some of the most important ones. What you don't recognize is that they are realizing that too, and aren't really cold, catty, mean or insincere, but that they are as confused as you.

You look at your job... and it is not even close to what you thought you would be doing, or maybe you are looking for a job and realizing that you are going to have to start at the bottom and that scares you.

Your opinions have gotten stronger. You see what others are doing and find yourself judging more than usual because suddenly you realize that you have certain boundaries in your life and are constantly adding things to your list of what is acceptable and what isn't. One minute, you are insecure and then the next, secure.

You laugh and cry with the greatest force of your life. You feel alone and scared and confused. Suddenly, change is the enemy and you try and cling on to the past with dear life, but soon realize that the past is drifting further and further away, and there is nothing to do but stay where you are or move forward.

You get your heart broken and wonder how someone you loved could do such damage to you. Or you lie in bed and wonder why you can't meet anyone decent enough that you want to get to know better. Or maybe you love someone but love someone else too and cannot figure out why you're doing this because you know that you aren't a bad person. One night stands and random hook ups start to look cheap. Getting wasted and acting like an idiot starts to look pathetic. You go through the same emotions and questions over and over, and talk with your friends about the same topics because you cannot seem to make a decision. You worry about loans, money, the future and making a life for yourself... and while winning the race would be great, right now you'd just like to be a contender!

What you may not realize is that every one reading this relates to it. We are in our best of times and our worst of times, trying as hard as we can to figure this whole thing out.

We call it the 'Quarter-life Crisis'.


Anonymous said...

People used to talk aboud midlle alife crisis. That is when you are around 50-55 when you are expecting grown up people likely to retire, not many opportunities for reemploymnert, low family income losing out to youngaster in the office, children gone out having grown up emotionally down inlife scard of old age, parts of the body not wiling to cooperate, scared of old age, decease, loneliness etc.
What id the quly life crisi Is it the price of grwth, developement.

aditya said...

@ Anonymous
The reason that people used to talk about a mid life crisis before what that no one even came close to attaining their goals until then. Sadly, today people do not even have a clue as to where they can go and how high. They reach what they want to do very fast and then they do not know what to do. In addition, they are not ready to be in a rut, even though they are.
The quarter life crisis is not exactly a crisis, it is more of a rudderless period when we are thrown against the rocks and we are scared that we may break. Later when we look back at this, we find that we were silly, just as people do when they look at a mid life crisis

Suchitra said...

I may be wrong, but right now it seems to me that the quarter life crisis is the only time when you actually admit the truth to yourself and stare at it in the face. Every other period is an illusion, a comfortable lie, but a lie just the same.

On a different note nice layout, the readability's improved tremendously!